If both of you think it might help, your child or children can to be invited to talk confidentially with a specially trained mediator in a child consultation meeting. This is entirely voluntary on their behalf and, with your permission, the mediator will write to them personally to explain.
The child consultant and the children will agree what they would like feeding back to you as parents. This gives the children ‘a voice’ in a situation where they may be feeling ‘invisible’, upset or confused – or where divided loyalties could become a problem.
