Arrangements for the children

Thinking about arrangements for the children is often an important part of mediation.  A mediator can help you agree a Parenting Plan. This helps you put the best interests of your child first and sets out your shared commitment. 

Your plan will help you work out practical decisions such as sharing information, extended time, living arrangements, money, education, health care and emotional well-being.

If both of you think it might help, your child or children can to be invited to talk confidentially with a specially trained mediator in a child consultation meeting. This is entirely voluntary on their behalf and, with your permission, the mediator will write to them personally to explain. 

The child consultant and the children will agree what they would like feeding back to you as parents. This gives the children ‘a voice’ in a situation where they may be feeling ‘invisible’, upset or confused – or where divided loyalties could become a problem.